how r u

Ladies,

We've seen this happen time and time again. You date or non-date a guy and break up. 2 weeks to 12 years later he eventually contacts you. always. 99.9% of the guys I've dated have done this.

Here are a few possible reasons men send the inevitable, "how r u" text out of nowhere.

(in no particular order)

1. You hooked up once and he wants to keep the option open. However ridiculous and impossible (months, maybe even years have gone by - it doesn't matter). Bonus, if you don't live anywhere near him. Extra points if you're not living in the same country.

2. He is bored.

3. He is currently with or has recently broken up with someone who he views as a crazy person (wife or gf). He thinks back to the non-crazies from his past.

4. He has unsuccessfully tried to stalk you on facebook.

5. You are not on facebook (or he can't find you) so google is the next best thing.

6. He has googled you and confirmed that there are no photos on the web that show you have 'let yourself go,' and in his mind, this means you are still hot.

7. He is bored.

8. He is visiting or has moved near where you currently live.

9. You are still the BEST hes ever had and he has now fully realized his irrecoverable mistake.

10. He's horny

11. He's lonely

12. He realizes that although he may not want to date you (or you don't want to date him) you can still be friends. Then he thinks friends = friends with benefits.

13. Maybe he feels bad for the way things ended and only sex can fix that.

14. You haven't returned any previous texts therefore you are a "challenge"

15. He finds out you've moved on

Stay strong ladies when you receive this text. If he didn't stick around the first time none of these reasons are enough for him to stick around the second time..or third...or fourth....